# The Road That Kept Coming Back

- Link: https://psychologyforeveryone.com/story/the-road-that-kept-coming-back-38/
- Published: 2026-10-24T07:45:04+00:00
- Author: myadvisorfriend@gmail.com

Imran, thirty-five, a delivery driver in Lucknow, survived a
 night-time road accident
in which his friend was badly hurt. For the first few days he felt numb and shaky,
and slept little. His family said, “You were lucky. Move on.” He tried.

Weeks later, he still sees the headlights whenever he closes his
 eyes. A truck 
horn makes him jump and sweat. He has started taking long detours to avoid that 
road and no longer drives at night. He feels guilty that he walked away, and he 
snaps at his children. At night he wakes with a pounding heart.

His brother takes him to a doctor. The doctor explains that after a
 terrifying 
event many people have such reactions, and when they last for more than a month 
and disrupt life, it may be post-traumatic stress. It is not weakness, but the brain
stuck in danger mode. Imran starts trauma-focused therapy with a psychologist, learns
grounding for flashbacks, and slowly drives on a quiet road with his brother beside
him. The memories stay, but they lose their power.

Imran’s wife says the biggest change was not that he stopped
 remembering but that
he stopped fighting the memory alone. Their children now ride beside him on short,
sunny drives.

### How to recognise it

 * Intrusion: unwanted memories, nightmares or flashbacks that feel
    real.
 * Avoidance of places, people or talk that remind of the event.
 * Negative changes: guilt, numbness, blaming self, loss of
    interest.
 * Hyperarousal: jumpiness, anger, poor sleep, always on guard.
 * Symptoms lasting more than a month and affecting work or family.

### What this story explains

This story shows the four groups of PTSD symptoms and the difference
 between early
reactions and lasting trauma.

### Probable root causes

 * Exposure to a life-threatening or deeply frightening event.
 * A brain alarm system that stays switched on after danger.
 * Guilt and lack of support afterwards.
 * Earlier trauma or heavy stress in life.
 * Being told to ‘move on’ with no space to talk.

### What to do

 1. Accept that reactions after trauma are normal and that you are not
     going mad.
 2. Use grounding when a flashback comes: feel your feet on the floor and
     name five
    things you can see.
 3. Keep to regular sleep, meals and gentle movement.
 4. Face avoided places only slowly and with support.
 5. Talk to someone you trust about what happened, at your own pace.
 6. Get professional help when symptoms last beyond about a month.

### Whom to consult

 * Family doctor to review sleep, health and options.
 * Clinical psychologist trained in trauma-focused therapy.
 * Psychiatrist if sleep, anger or low mood are severe or there are
    thoughts of
   ending life; in danger, contact the local emergency number or go to the nearest
   hospital.

### Do and don’t

  |  **Do** |  **Don’t** |  
   |  Be patient and consistent. |  Do not say ‘just forget it’. |  
 |  Offer a calm presence. |  Do not push him to retell the story. |  
 |  Encourage routine and rest. |  Do not force him back to the place at once. |  
 |  Listen if he wants to talk. |  Do not use alcohol to cope. |  
 |  Learn about trauma together. |  Do not take anger personally. |

### How to behave and⏎  communicate

 * Speak softly and slowly: “Whatever you feel is a normal reaction to
    something
   terrifying.”
 * Let him decide how much to share.
 * Say: “It was not your fault. I am here.”
 * Avoid ‘at least’ statements such as ‘at least you survived’.
 * Be steady; he may need to hear it more than once.