Perfect on the Screen – what this story teaches, the signs and what to do
From the book – Chapter 28: Digital and Social-Media Mental Health
Perfect on the Screen
Leena, sixteen, in Mumbai, followed fitness and beauty accounts. Every picture looked flawless. She began to compare her face and body with strangers and filters, and to feel she was never enough. She posted a photo, refreshed it for likes, and felt low when few came.
Over months she stopped eating with the family, said she was "cutting junk," and spent long hours checking her body in the mirror. She became tearful, and her grades slipped.
What this story explains
This story shows social comparison as a body-image and eating risk, not a personality flaw, and links to eating disorders. If a platform leaves you smaller, it is not rest.
How to recognise it
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Constantly comparing herself with edited images.
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Mood changes tied to likes, comments and posts.
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New food rules, avoiding meals, or time spent checking the body.
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Feeling worse after using certain platforms.
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Withdrawal, low mood or falling marks.
What to do
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Ask how the feed makes her feel, and listen.
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Together, unfollow or mute accounts that leave her feeling smaller.
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Explain that images are edited, and build self-worth from many other things.
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Notice any change in eating, mood or exercise and take it to a doctor early.
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Keep family meals calm and screen-free.
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Encourage offline time with friends and activities.
Do and don’t
| Do | Don’t |
|---|---|
| Notice and name the effects of the feed. | Do not comment on her body. |
| Praise skills and character. | Do not say "stop being silly". |
| Keep meals together. | Do not confiscate everything suddenly. |
| Model kind talk about bodies. | Do not treat it as vanity. |
| Check in on mood. | Do not delay a doctor visit when eating changes. |
Read the full chapter – Chapter 28: Digital and Social-Media Mental Health
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More questions
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- What we already know? (Chapter 28)
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- Understanding danger online – phones and social media
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- What is true: night screens…?
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