Always Late, Always Sorry – what this story teaches, the signs and what to do
From the book – Chapter 27: ADHD and Neurodiversity
Always Late, Always Sorry
Priya, thirty-four, a graphic designer in Bengaluru, was brilliant in meetings and a mess in her inbox. She missed deadlines, lost keys, and began tasks at midnight in a burst of panic. At school she had been called a dreamer. She had assumed she was just disorganised and lazy.
When her young son was assessed for ADHD, the clinician's questions sounded uncomfortably familiar. Priya went home and cried. All her life she had coped with lists, alarms and shame, and felt flooded by noise and clutter.
What this story explains
This story shows that ADHD does not always stop at eighteen and that adult assessment is valid. It also shows that ADHD tablets belong to the prescribed person and sharing them is misuse.
How to recognise it
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Lifelong lateness, losing things and unfinished tasks despite good intelligence.
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Feeling overwhelmed by noise, clutter or lists.
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Restlessness shown as inner racing thoughts or fidgeting.
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Years of shame, anxiety or low mood from coping.
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The pattern began in childhood, not just recently.
What to do
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Write down examples from childhood and now, to share with the clinician.
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Seek an assessment from a clinician who knows adult ADHD.
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Use external systems: one calendar, alarms, written lists, a set place for keys.
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Ask your workplace for written instructions, flexible hours or a quieter space.
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If a clinician prescribes medicine, take it only as prescribed and never share it.
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Treat anxiety, low mood or sleep problems alongside.
Do and don’t
| Do | Don’t |
|---|---|
| Take assessment seriously. | Do not share or sell your tablets. |
| Use reminders without shame. | Do not take someone else's. |
| Break big tasks down. | Do not call yourself lazy. |
| Rest and keep sleep regular. | Do not rely on caffeine all night. |
| Share your needs at work if comfortable. | Do not skip follow-ups. |
Read the full chapter – Chapter 27: ADHD and Neurodiversity
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